Three Important Tools for Creating the Life of Your Dreams

Have you ever noticed how some people are magicians in manifesting the life of their dreams? They never seem to struggle, force or create drama in their life. Their path seems to be centered in possibilities, fun, trust and ease.

Think back to a time when you created exactly what your heart desired. Maybe it was a relationship, the perfect job or a great haircut. Do you remember what you did to attract your desire to you?

There are three very important tools in consciously creating your reality from this place.

1. Get clear with what you desire.
How intimate are you with your desires? Do you allow yourself to indulge in what could bring you the most joy?

Many of us have been taught that desire is not to be trusted. We have been told that to find true happiness you must completely let go of desire. In some religions, desire is believed to be the root of all evil.

Yet it is not the desire that is evil. It is the attachment to the desire that causes our pain, confusion, frustration and greed. Attachment is based on fear and insecurity, of having to know or control the outcome of your desire.

It isn’t the symbol or structure that brings happiness. Who knows, you may get something completely different and yet so much more fulfilling! Get in touch with what you desire, and ask for “This or something better.” Let it go and trust. It is only in the chaos of the unknowing that you open yourself to a whole range of possibilities.

Another important suggestion is to ask yourself, “Is this desire coming from my heart or from my ego?” Your ego has attachment or an agenda to creating happiness. A good practice is to ask, “Why do I have this desire?” Look for hidden agendas of proving, earning, control and manipulation versus fun, love, adventure and learning. A desire grounded in your heart will have a much deeper impact and resonance than one coming from your ego. They actually feel different.

Twenty-eight years ago, my husband Larry and I desired to move to a warm coastal climate, on a surf spot, with a view of the ocean. We connected with our hearts’ desire of adventure, new beginnings and living a simpler life. In our minds, we thought it might be Mexico or Santa Barbara. We bought property at both places and began imagining our dream.

2. Imagine being there.
From your desire, imagine what it will be like when you get there. FEEL the emotions of being there. This is the resonance that will expand or attract that which you desire.

Recognize any stories of fear or limitation that you may be imagining as well. Don’t deny or repress these “less than comfortable” feelings. They will not disappear. Learn from them. If you don’t accept and get curious now, your imagination and attention will be drawn to that which you don’t desire. Have compassion for yourself and your fears. Look at them, love them, get curious with them, forgive them and then release them.

Include all of your feelings and senses in visualizing yourself where you want to be. See the images of being there. Standing in your imagination, smell, taste and hear all around you. How does it feel receiving this new reality? Infuse it with this resonance, and live it as if it were actually happening. Be there, in your body and in your mind.

Larry and I imagined living in this warm climate by the sea. Larry imagined what it would be like to surf regularly near our home. We shared this vision with each other over the years, imagining how it would be once we were there. We spent time at various beaches and locations experiencing it, deepening and confirming our dream. These places included New Zealand, Kauai, Mexico and Santa Barbara.

3. Expect it!
It’s in the knowing that makes your desire a reality. Although it is important to be as specific as you can with your desire, it is also important to let go of demanding a guarantee. It’s important to surrender to the uncertainty, as you do not know exactly what the universe has in store for you. Remember to end this process by asking for “This or something better, with harm to none.”

It’s important to drop into the resonance of TRUST. Watch for signs or “whispers” from the universe showing you the way. Listen to your intuition. Have confidence in the outcome and watch for things to fall into place. Let the universe take care of the details.

After 9/11, we became more restless living in the U.S. Synchronicity began to appear. One night, the Prime Minister of New Zealand unexpectedly arrived at our home for dinner. We reconnected to our dreams that evening and knew it was a sign that it was time to pursue our future. Within a few days, more powerful “whispers” or coincidences occurred, pulling us toward New Zealand. We intuitively knew the time was right. We sent in our application for residency and within an unusually short time, received a package in the mail on Larry’s birthday, welcoming us into New Zealand and our new life!

Using desire, imagination and expectation, you co-create your life with the universe. By slowing things down, using your tools, and paying attention to the feedback, you take authority for yourself and creating your life.